Thank you, I hope everything goes well for you and your lady friend :)
So…my parents owe me $1,700 bucks, my student loans are coming due, I’m packing to head up to San Francisco tonight, and I should be freaking out about life in general but SAL GOODMAN! I feel really good right now. Not sure why but who cares? I’m joining the air force. I’ve decided that now is the perfect time in my life - I’m not involved with anyone permanent, I have no rent, no major obligations, no steady job that I’d be really bummed if I had to quit, already got a Bachelor’s degree under my belt, and have no mini me’s running around. I have always wanted to be a pilot and I’m going to pursue that. So fuck yeah.
THIS! Anon if you’re still reading back here, do this. It’s a brilliant idea and if you feel so inclined check out the blog it’s attached to, She’s wonderful as well and comes with my personal high recommendation :)
The other couple just a few days ago texted me to inform me that they had broken up. Which came totally out of the blue and which they assured me had nothing to do with me. So the search continues, I’m in no big rush though. I’m super picky…as you can all imagine lol. I will almost certainly feel inclined to share once this experience happens though, rest assured :)
I need to get a FAQ’s link up haha. But never fear, this is exactly why I have this blog kiddos! Questions are a good thing.
First - excitement is a good thing! That’s what I like to hear!
Second - it’s okay if you don’t know everything yet. Did you know how to swim the first time you touched water? No. But you got in there and waddled around and eventually you got the hang of it, right? This is no different.
Third - if he’s asked you for this, you already look like a sexy goddess to him. I PROMISE you. So you have that going for you, use it to your advantage. Here is a man who is eager to do what you want, and who values you and already sees you as this wonderful creature. Use it woman!
Okay, so the practical advice I can give is this. Pick a scene. There are different kinds of domination, so choose the kind you want. You could be the harsh Mistress, the Disciplinarienne, the strong Amazon, etc. It seems like you (and he) are gravitating to the Goddess type of domination, which is fantastic and a really gentle way to begin Femdom.
With all these different types of domination come different expectations and different ‘ground rules’ you might call them. You wouldn’t expect the same thing of a naughty school boy as you would of a humble worshiper, and you wouldn’t say the same things either. So be mindful of what sorts of things you are going to say and do to him. The Goddess type of domination isn’t huge on physical pain or punishment, but you can and should use your pussy - or whatever part of you is most erogenous - as a reward. He should have to earn it, not just be given it.
Go into it with a mindset that you are in control and his sole purpose for this evening or this week or this whatever-period-of-time-you-want is to please you. That’s part 1. Part 2 is to have him complete tasks for you, simple things like chores or what have you, or you can make them more complicated and more sexualized like arranging a sexy outfit for his Goddess to wear. If he’s completed the tasks satisfactorily, give him a reward. If not, then an appropriate punishment (appropriate for the scene you’re in). YOU decide if he’s completed his duties to your liking, and you decide the rewards and punishments. He should get you off as many times as you please. Don’t be afraid to use orgasm as a reward for him. He should be motivated to please you.
This scene can be as long or as short as you want it to be, as humiliating or as teasing as you’re comfortable with, and you can really tailor it to your desires as a couple. It’s mild as far as the extra super duper kinky stuff goes, but that makes it an awesome jumping off point for other kinky adventures.
I hope this helps you out anon, sorry I took so long!
I’ve been chastised? I don’t think you understand the point of this blog very well, dear anon…I don’t receive chastisement, I dish it out.
Damn…that’s hard. Woman sub. Because while I’d love to have two adorable male pets doing my bidding, women are just so much sexier on their knees. Personal preference ;)
Hey guys. I have lots of questions in my inbox. I’m sorry for not answering them, I truly am. I’ve been a shitty blog owner as of late.
I’m thinking about posting one - possibly two depending on reception - (sort of…for privacy reasons I guess) face shots. What y’all think?
But since I posted a rant-and-rage filled rant…with rage filling…I’ll post some of my sex life that shockingly hasn’t completely died off from neglect.
Since I broke up with the ex I’ve hooked up with 3 guys. One of them is very likely a gay man who hasn’t come out to himself yet. I do wish him the best of luck because he’s a sweetheart but it’s a DAMN CRYING SHAME because he was gorgeous and had the most fantastic ass and cock I’ve ever seen in my life. Sigh. Well.
I’ve not had any kinky fun although lordy knows I’ve gotten offered. Another sigh…but on the upside apparently drop dead gorgeous women enjoy hitting on and flirting with me. Like…11/10’s. Which has stunned me to silence. And which brings about the point of “oh yeah, I’m totally dating girls now” which then leads to “oh yeah, I totally get why guys bitch about girls now.” I don’t think I’ve ever appreciated guys more. Goodness gracious how do y’all do it? Fear of rejection is a bitch and it takes some serious nerve to ask a lady out.
Anywho that leads me to this: I’m in the process of arranging a threesome, wherein the other two are a couple interested in a girl to spice things up. The girl (from what I can pick up on) has quite the submissive streak. Which is HOT. She just doesn’t know she has it haha. What I like about them is they are both comfortable with sleeping with me one on one as well as in a group, don’t see it as a threat to their relationship etc etc and so basically I get two fuck buddies - one male one female, just like I wanted - for the price of one, so to speak. Pretty cool and I’m nervous as fuck but fairly excited too.
So yeah, there’s that :)
To everyone freaking out or worried I’m dead in a ditch somewhere, I am not! And I am sorry I keep disappearing. To fill you all in: I basically now have 3 jobs, all of which are stressing me the fuck out, plus school to finish.
I have one boss, let’s call him Captain Douchebag (why? Because I’m not one for subtlety. For clarification see title above) who has this fun habit of calling me up the MORNING BEFORE he wants me to work. Gives me 13 or 14 hour shifts over the course of one day. Total of 24-26 hours of work during a given weekend. So here I am I’ve made weekend plans, thinking to myself “oh this weekend will be my lazy one! joy.” annnnnnnd it’s gone.
I have to go to San Diego this weekend because my coworker got a DUI. Since it’s a massive waste of gas and time to go there Saturday morning, drive back Saturday night, drive in Sunday morning and drive back Sunday night, guess who gets to spend her whole weekend with Captain Douchebag? This girl. All my meals. All my free time. And in case anyone’s wondering, no I won’t get to enjoy the city. I’ll be working all weekend, and when I’m not working I’ll be with C. D. which is as far from enjoyment as I can get.
In addition to this, my more steady non-weekend-only job has me just about pulling my hair out with all the extra responsibility put on me that isn’t in my job description and I’m not getting paid for. I’m basically doing the work of someone directly superior to myself. But I’m me. Not that person. I have all the responsibility, all of the expectations, and zero of the benefits. And by the way this all happened within my first week of working at this new job I’d literally NEVER been in before. In the interest of fairness, all my coworkers have been under the same amount of stress and for the same reasons as well. They’ve just been there longer is all.
So now I have C. D. to worry about, my steady job to worry about, and trying to find time for school and potentially picking up some more work on the side (but that’s from C. D. of all the freaking people in the world…which reminds me I have three months to learn website design and build a website for him from scratch. If anyone has any good suggestions for how the hell one goes about doing this, I’m all ears).
I know this is about as far from sexy as I can get, but I’ve had literally no sex drive the last month. I’ve been stressed, haven’t exercised in a month (GROSS…good mother of all that is holy I feel horrible about that) and I’m basically subsisting off of coffee right now….like that my complete consumption of anything edible was two cups of starbucks today. Maybe that’s why I’ve been so antsy and angry all day.
TL;DR life, me no gusta right now.
I love the incorporation of the bedframe into the rope bondage, and especially his attention to how he tied the sub’s legs and linked her arms. she really cannot move here and is at his mercy, as she should be
I just did something I needed to do. I feel peaceful now.
I also got the job I desperately needed to get.
To say I have a lot going on in my love life right now is underselling it.
But to say I am not excited about it is a bold-faced lie.
I will post about the latter statement soon.
Submission (I think?) from my IRL friend this guy